Question: “I want to reach bodhi but I don’t want to isolate myself from modern life i.e friends not necessarily tech.. I just want to reach perfect existence without shaving my head and exclusively wearing orange robes.”
I don’t know what you’re reading, but the Buddha never said you have to abandon your normal life to practice Buddhism or any other path. Modern life and everything in it is a million times more distracting than the time of the Buddha when they had not even a fraction of what we have today and it was still difficult for some people to reach enlightenment.
We probably won’t realize enlightenment in this life or for the next few hundred or thousands because life after life we’ve accumulated more and more dust that’s covering the path to enlightenment. But with diligence and conviction, we can help sweep away some of the dust on the path so we can see what way it leads.
Don’t focus on trying to reach “perfect existence.” There’s really no such thing and it probably won’t happen in this life. We have way too many distractions and defilements to eradicate before we can even reach the stepping stones of a liberated life. For now, focus on the actual practice. Read, study and practice. If you try to hard to reach the non-existent finish line, then you’ll never get there.
Smile and be well!